Do wedding details matter?
It may not seem like a big question, but it will have a big impact on your experience as you plan and enjoy your wedding day.
The answer to this question has shifted generationally. A decade or two ago, every wedding had a set color scheme and, most likely, a theme. Everything—gowns, napkins, invitations, favors—had to tie in. But today, many couples opt to pursue an atmosphere, instead. What will the wedding feel like? Will it be dreamy and elegant? Casual and laid-back? You may hope to create an experience or provoke an emotion in your guests using location, lighting, flowers and music.
Marriers today also want to avoid the impression that they’re “trying too hard” or that they’re overly controlling. There’s no doubt that a less-is-more attitude puts the emphasis on guests and can save money, too. But don’t forget that it’s a special day for you two. Your personalities, likes and dislikes should shine through! There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make it yours.
Subtle wedding details: a happy medium
Careful attention to wedding details, such as jewelry, decor and even desserts, can help create a sense of cohesion and personality without the need to select a specific theme or adhere to strict color choices. Your selections can connect your wedding to your heritage, culture, family traditions or interests, adding even more meaning to your day.
Here are a few ideas:
- Use an old family cookie recipe for the dessert table
- Incorporate heirloom jewelry, cuff links, or handkerchiefs
- Bring in traditional foods, music or decorations that connect to your heritage
- DIY centerpieces and favors that connect to a favorite hobby or interest
- Decorate the gift and card table with mementos from your relationship
Documenting your details
No matter how you choose to personalize your celebration, be sure to keep a list of your wedding details so your photographer can document each of your special touches! One way to make sure everything gets photographed is to designate a gift bag or basket to hold your mementos. As you plan for your wedding, tuck special things into the bag, like a small bottle of your signature perfume, your “something borrowed” or your grandfather’s tie clip. This trick does double duty: it keeps your treasures safe and saves you brain space on your wedding day. You won’t have to ask, “Now where did I put that?”
As you pack your wedding detail bag or basket, here is a comprehensive list of items to place inside:
- Wedding and engagement rings
- Jewelry box or pillow for rings
- Something borrowed
- Something blue
- Copy of your wedding invitation
- Copy of your save-the-date
- Instant photos of the couple
- Ties, bow ties, pocket squares and handkerchiefs
- Heirloom jewelry
- Signature lipstick
- Bottle of nail polish
- Notes or gifts exchanged on the wedding day
- Notebook with your vows written inside
- Ticket stubs or other mementos from early dates
- Boutonniere, corsage or other small flowers
- Anything that makes you smile… the sky is the limit!
What do you think? How much do wedding details matter to you?